Season 2, Episode 13, Sep 8, 2026, 18 minutes
When Calm Feels Like A Problem
About this episode
We treat conflict like proof that a relationship is alive, and calm like proof that something is missing. This episode looks at why we reach for tension, old arguments, and gossip even when things are fine, what Seneca had to say about how we spend our time, and why choosing ease over drama can be a fuller way to live. Sometimes it is the whole point.
In this episode, I cover:
- Why calm can feel like proof something's missing, instead of proof something's working
- The pull toward gossip and conflict as a shortcut to closeness
- The myth that a blow up clears the air or strengthens a bond
- A step by step reflection to catch yourself manufacturing tension
- Seneca's insight on how we spend, and waste, our time
Enjoy,
Hila
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I am not a therapist. Think of this as guided self-reflection, and me as your reflection companion. I draw on my LBTC training as a Logic-Based Consultant.